Forgiveness is the daily practice of learning to love ourselves, and our ability to relate just as we are. It is in noticing the brief moments of grace, when we get it right. It is in learning to focus our attention on our own capacity for goodness. These practices actually free us from the longing for a better past, as well as replacing our fantasies that we can alter how someone will relate to us in the future with what is good enough right here and now. Finding the true source of forgiveness within, even only a drop of it is the beginning of healing our broken relationships out there.